Let me first off introduce myself I am Maegan. I am a 19yr old mother of 2 girls Isabell and Miya. I have a wonderful husband I have been married to for 3yrs. Now I am really new at this so please be patient with me. I am going to give you some back story of my oldest. My husband is not her biological father but blood couldn't make them any closer.
It all started in November of 2005 when I met Isabell's father. His name is Francisco I was 13 when we started dating. Everything started off fine in the beginning he was great, affectionate, caring,etc. Life was easy didn't have a care in the world and decided I was ready to have sex. We weren't even together a month ( Obviously didn't think it through) but we did it. I was in what I thought was love. Soon after my mother found out and wasn't happy at all about the situation she found out in the beginning of February of 2006.
She made an appt for me to get on birth control. The date was set for Feb 10th 2006. Now I wasn't thinking straight and the first time I didn't use protection I got pregnant Feb 6th of 2006. I went for the appt not thinking anything of it got the Depo shot didn't know I was pregnant. Then found out March 17th that I was expecting. I thought I just had the stomach flu but when I saw that little test show up with 2 lines I was shocked. At first I couldn't quite process what was going on. Then once I really took it in I was instantly in love I knew I had to protect my baby.
My mother was pissed she was yelling at me, cussing, crying, and she had every right to be. I called Francisco to tell him the news and he said he would be right over. Once he got there we talked outside and he told me how happy he was but would do whatever I wanted to do. Then left 10mins later that day changed my life forever. It also went way down hill for Francisco and I. My moms friends were all talking to me telling me how the baby was going to ruin my life. How I was early enough to just get a shot in my arm and make it all go away. Now I have very strong views on abortion and no way was I going to kill my child. This went on for days telling me " Its the hardest decision you will ever make but you only have a week to think about it". I couldn't believe what I was hearing my mother was even telling me to do it. I just couldn't fathom it her friends telling her that she could force me to do it. I stood my ground though and told her I would just leave she wouldn't hear from me again. I would find a way to take care of the child or I would give the baby up for open adoption.
She finally understood that I was serious I knew what I wanted to do. I called Francisco who I hadn't even seen in 4days to let him know what I was thinking. I told him I was going to give the baby up for adoption because at 13 and 14 we were not prepared to take care of a child. He couldn't get a job and neither could I. He started crying and begging me to keep the baby I told him that I didn't believe we could do it. Especially so young we had school to think about and it wouldn't work.
At first I was completely against him but I was already excited for keeping my baby that I didn't care how we had to do it. Biggest mistake ever made was allowing it. The pregnancy was going fine but our relationship was falling apart. He became more distant I would hardly ever see him when he was around he was always on his phone or upset. That's when the abuse started. We got into a fight about his phone see I found pictures of girls in his phone they were clothed but I was curious. He said " Oh its my cousins girlfriend he uses my phone a lot" but his cousin was dealing to and I knew it was a lie. How are you going to be a drug dealer with no phone? Things got really heated that night. He ended up shoving me into the wall, holding my face, and screaming at me. I was freaked out I couldn't believe he was actually getting physical with me.
Of course he apologized for it said it would never happen again. Now ladies I would like to pause for a minute and say that once they put their hands on you it becomes easier and easier everytime. The abuse got worse pushing turned into slapping, then punching, kicking, until it came to the point that he was beating the shit out of me. Everytime after he would always say " I am so sorry I will never do it again". Then he forced me 2x to do cocaine when I say force I am talking about sitting on my chest pinning my arms down, prying my mouth open, and putting the drugs in my mouth. Let me remind you I was pregnant this whole time. I didn't know what to do I didn't tell anyone what was going on because I knew what they would say. I also didn't want my daughter to grow up without a father. I am going to skip over a few months. During that time frame I found out he was cheating on me with numerous girls that's why he was never around. He started doing cocaine that's why he was so violent. It was horrible and I didn't think at the age of 14 that would be happening to me.
My due date came and went still no baby. Isabell just did not want to come out so the Dr scheduled and induction. I was being induced Nov 3rd 2006. The night before the induction I went to his house to see him let him know what was going on you know catch him up. It was our 1 yr anniversary I just got a new cell phone it had been a good day. That ended quickly we got into another argument. See I was never allowed to touch his phone so when I got mine I made the same rule. He didn't like that and we started fighting for the phone. He then bit my arm to get me to release it. I wasn't hiding anything I was 100% faithful to him. He bit me so hard I thought I was bleeding. He of course apologized and said it would never happen again. After the fight we were talking and he wanted to have sex. Now at 40weeks and 4 days pregnant that was the last thing on my mind. It hurt to do anything. He didn't understand and started ripping my clothes off then raped me. I yelled I was fighting him to get off of me but he just punched me on my side and told me to shut the fuck up he was almost done.
Afterwards I just left I started walking home it was 11pm and my house was about a mile away. I didn't care I felt disgusting I was upset he tried to follow me but I lost him in an alley. After I got home I looked in the mirror at my arm I had a bruise the size of a soft ball. He had never left that bad of a mark on me. I started crying and decided to show my mom. She called the cops they came and basically told me it was my word against his. They didn't even go talk to him or anything. I didn't say anything about the rape. I told them I was trying to fight him off because he was sitting on me so he had marks too. They said if they arrested him then they had to arrest me too. So I just left it alone.
I went in the next night for my induction everything went fine. He was not allowed to know what hospital I was at. They even made it to where he couldn't even call and ask. He missed the birth of course I didn't want him there either. I was so hurt that he actually raped me but I had bigger things on my mind. The nurses were bitches to me all but 1 because of my age. I almost bled to death after I gave birth to my daughter. ( I will go into Isabells birth story later). Lets start wrapping things up we got back together when she was 1 week old but the violence began again when she was 3 months I finally had had enough and left him when she was 4months old. The best decision I have ever made. He tried to kill me the day I left him, threatened to drop my daughter on a marble floor it was bad.
I don't regret meeting him because I wouldn't have my beautiful daughter but I regret that I stayed as long as I did. I regret that the fact I grew up without my father the fear of my daughter not having hers caused me so much physical and emotional abuse. If you have any questions about this story about certain times please feel free to ask.
THANK YOU FOR TAKING THE TIME TO READ THIS.
Maegan
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